A mature child is a blessing for parents; there would be no tantrums in the supermarket for toys or bakery to buy cakes, no visit in the principal office because your child was disrespectful to teachers’ complaints the neighbors because of how loud your children are. To ensure that your child grows in that way – that is, being emotionally, intellectually, socially, morally mature- you need to teach them some firm rules and discipline at a young age.
Make sure to develop your child’s self-reliance
You can do this by making your children independent and let them do their work like tying their shoelaces, combing their hair, cleaning their room, and bringing their plates in the kitchen after eating. Though it definitely would be faster and take less time if you do all those kinds of stuff for them but giving their responsibility to them at an early age would help them to rely on themselves in the future and be confident in themselves.
Give them the liability to make their own choices
Give the children the freedom to choose as soon as they’re old enough to understand. You can start doing this by making them choose between their two favorite drinks or snacks. In this way, you’re ensuring that your children know what they want and make them habituated to making their own decisions. You can advise them on their choices or express concern, but let them make the decision. If it’s a bad decision, they’d learn from their mistakes which is a more effective way of learning.
Teach your child how to manage their emotions and self-control
Make your children wait. Please don’t give them whatever they want and whenever they want. In this way, they would learn how to become patient and would also appreciate the thing more. When your child is fussing over bedtime or a toy, tell them why they need to go to bed early or can’t have a toy instead of just saying, “I said so.” Make your child understand.
Offer a lot of appreciation and praises
Appreciation and praise are very important to follow as a parent. Children have the instinct to make their parents happy. Make sure you’re acknowledging your child’s efforts and admire them. By validating their struggles, you’re making them feel cherished. In this manner, the child would gain motivation to make you happy by following your discipline.
Make sure your child grows to be kind
Children think the world revolves around them and that they can have anything. The parent must make sure the children take into account other’s feelings and emotions and not be self-centered. Children are too young to understand people’s emotions; instead, you can show them how their kindness can bring a smile to other’s faces. You can do this by showing their friend’s excitement when your child shares their toy or by showing the grin on the stranger’s face when they share a cookie. By doing this, your child would grow to be considerate.
As a parent, it’s important to you to have realistic expectations from your children and keep in mind that children mature in different stages and ages. In this way, the child won’t feel frustrated and would also be motivated to do better.